You know, I see parents here sharing their kids' birth charts and doing everything they can to avoid being the villain in their child’s story. Even though I’m not a parent myself, let’s remember something—most of the time when you 'hurt' your child, it’s totally unintentional. Kids are sensitive and just incredibly vulnerable. So often, those childhood hurts stick around, no matter how much new understanding your child picks up as they grow.
Just trying to be the best mom or dad you can be doesn’t always mean your kid will see it that way. Your own baggage comes into play, and it shapes your relationship with them whether you realize it or not. A lot of you haven’t done that deep work yet—I can tell by how you react when I get real with you about my own struggles. So many of you just aren’t being honest with yourselves.
And here’s something else: the feelings you had while your child was in the womb? That stuff leaves a mark too. Moms and dads—give yourselves some grace. You’re not Superman or Superwoman. Having a kid doesn’t just magically heal you. Take it easy on yourself. Be kind to yourself.
If you grew up with parents who weren’t perfect—from the pretty decent all the way to the really tough—cut them some slack too. We’ve gotta stop expecting so much from the people who raised us. It’s hard to say, but honestly? They’re going to disappoint us in one way or another.
