I don’t believe in twin flames—or at least not in the way most people talk about them. To me, the idea of a twin flame isn’t about finding someone else who completes you. It’s about finding parts of yourself you never knew existed. My journey with this concept has been 20 years long, and honestly, it’s been wild. I’ve learned that spiritual connections are less about the other person and more about the growth they spark within you.
One thing I’ve realized is how important it is to sit with your emotions instead of jumping to conclusions. When things get rocky, it’s easy to label someone as a “runner” or assume they’re not your person. But sometimes, the real work is looking inward. Are you struggling with them, or are you struggling with yourself? For me, it’s been about unpacking old wounds—stuff from childhood, past relationships, and even how I’ve always associated love with pain.
Here’s something that might sound weird: I think twin flames are two separate souls, not halves of the same one. They have their own paths, their own lessons to learn. And guess what? You don’t need them to be whole. The most important love story you’ll ever have is the one with yourself. If you’re waiting for someone else to make you feel complete, you might be waiting a long time.
I’ve noticed a lot of people are obsessed with the idea of twin flames right now, and I get it. It’s romantic. But I think we’re missing the point. This isn’t about chasing someone or decoding their every move. It’s about becoming the best version of yourself. If you’re stuck in a loop of “Is this my twin flame?” or “Why isn’t this working?”, take a step back. Focus on your own healing and growth.
One thing that’s helped me is paying attention to the energy around me. Instead of trying to fit everything into what I’ve read online, I’ve learned to trust my gut. And yeah, I’ve definitely come across false twins along the way—people who felt right in the moment but weren’t meant to stick around. Those relationships taught me so much, though. They showed me what I wanted, what I deserved, and what I needed to let go of.
At the end of the day, I think love is beautiful, no matter what form it takes. Whether it’s a twin flame, a soulmate, or even just a really great friend, it’s all worth celebrating. So, take some time today to celebrate yourself. Tell yourself, “You’re lovely” every single day. Trust me, it makes a difference.
